Be The Spark

The enemy is fear.  We think it is hate; but, it is fear. – Ghandi

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Recently, I’ve heard people compare the stigma of mental illness to the stigma faced by individuals with cancer.  Cancer and stigma; I never knew.  It was a surprise to me that cancer patients have been and still are stigmatized. I wear pink ribbons, walk for cancer, hang with friends who battle cancer.  My father succumbed to cancer in 2007 and cancer took my grandmother in her 93rd year. Cancer is a killer; but in my social and familial circles, it is an out-of-the-closet, talked about disease.  But mental illness? No. We don’t really talk about that.

There are so many reasons why we don’t talk about mental illness, but I believe that most of the reasons are rooted in fear.  Cancer World included this statement in its July-August 2013 issueStigma breeds silence, which fuels the fear and ignorance that feeds the stigma. Breaking this vicious circle not only makes life easier for people with cancer, but can also change public attitudes towards prevention and early detection.

What is stigma?  According to the Oxford Dictionary, stigma is “a mark of disgrace associated with a particular circumstance, quality, or person.”  The first example given is “the stigma of mental disorder”.  Ouch.  There it is.  In perpetuity for all to see.  Unless changed, the words stigma and mental disorder are forever bound together in a trusted resource. At least the Merriam-Webster online definition adds the words “often unfair beliefs”.

I belong to a ‘secret society’.  We meet on Facebook and talk about our concerns for our loved ones and the lack of access to adequate and appropriate care.  Some of us advocate for mental health issues; others share current medical findings; still others attend or lead support groups.  Each of us is trying to find our voice. But none of us will speak out if it will harm our loved ones.

Easy Question

Here is my question to you.  If you were asked to stand up in front of friends, coworkers, or perhaps at church, how would you feel if you had to say, “I have been diagnosed with cancer, and I’m going to need your support and comfort.”  This would be difficult for me. I am such a private person.  But knowing my friends and my community, I think the outpouring of support and comfort would far exceed any marginalization I might face.

Harder Question

But let’s take this scenario one step further.  Substitute the words “mental illness”, or better yet, be specific and use the words “bipolar disorder”, or “schizophrenia” in your announcement to your peers.  Here you go; just stand up and say these words:  “I have been diagnosed with schizophrenia, and I’m going to need your support and comfort.”  How would your friends, coworkers, and church-going acquaintances react to your announcement?

Are you cringing at the thought of announcing a diagnosis of mental illness? Chances are after an announcement like that you would feel more alone than ever before. There would probably be those who whisper misunderstandings among themselves: perpetuating prejudices; fanning fear.  Their whispers could make it difficult for you to retain or find housing, jobs, or friends.  Already beaten down, your self-confidence and self-esteem might take another mighty blow.

There would be the curious.  They would ask questions; very uncomfortable probing questions.  There would be others who either have a mental illness or who care about someone who has been diagnosed with a mental illness.  These people understand that mental illness can be managed.  They will approach you quietly and let you know they care. Some will then walk away never to be seen again. A few others might become friends.

Does a handful of friends make up for the whispers, odd questions, and ostracism? Unfortunately, probably not.  Even in today’s knowledge-at-your-fingertips world, 44% of people know little about mental illness.1  We all know that people are afraid of what they do not understand, and many people do not understand mental illness. The same article that reports the lack of knowledge indicated that 84% of people surveyed wanted to know more about the warning signs of mental illness.  I believe that this means that there are many people who are open-minded, ready to learn, and who most likely know someone who has a mental illness.

Going it alone is difficult.  But there are other ways to get the message out and to share the knowledge that mental illnesses are manageable diseases.  Here are some sites offering ways to take action against the stigma of mental illness. 

When I was in high school, I was part of a group that adopted the slogan “Be the Spark”. The slogan was based on the words “It only takes a spark to get a fire going,” from Kurt Keiser’s song Pass It On.  Forum’s like NAMI, blogs, and radio shows are giving us the opportunity to learn more and to be the spark. 

FlameWe have a choice.  We can watch as the spark of ignorance fans the fear and stigma of mental illness.  Or with courage, and knowledge that we are not alone, our spark can feed the flame of knowledge and understanding.

1) Citation – National Alliance for Mental Illness:  http://www.nami.org/Template.cfm?Section=top_story&template=/contentmanagement/contentdisplay.cfm&ContentID=33805&title=Public%20Still%20Lacks%20Mental%20Health%20Knowledge

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About Barbara Rath

Enjoy reading, writing, hiking, hangin' with family, friends and my dogs, watching soccer (Go Breakers), baseball, football. Favorite foods are coffee, chocolate, and artichokes. Always thinking of new stuff to do and then not doing it.
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2 Responses to Be The Spark

  1. asnappshot says:

    Wonderful, well done.

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